@traders So far, I assumed "met IRL" means "originally met IRL", so if I originally know someone from online dating, have since met them IRL, and then ask them on a date, would that count or not? Depending on your feedback, I might clarify the option one way or another for future traders. @MingCat @SeanOylerMusicVideos

@4fa Okay, I went with my original interpretation.

@traders Would anyone like to share or take the remaining mana on "date" before I resolve it to YES? Before you get your hopes up for further YES resolutions: I already know there won't be a second date with this person. 😅

@4fa

I might let others take this one haha

@4fa

I already know there won't be a second date with this person. 😅

Sorry to hear, I'm sure you'll succeed if you keep looking though

@TheAllMemeingEye Thanks! I'm also optimistic. At least some more first dates seem realistic. 😁

@4fa wait a second, was this date initiated via you asking in person, and thus resolves the other option too, or was it asked online and/or by the other person?

@TheAllMemeingEye Oh, didn't see your edit. Online, by me. But your question adds another possible interpretation to that IRL option, i. e. whether I have to ask IRL. I'm going with my original interpretation: It has to be someone I originally met IRL, as opposed to having met them through online dating, but I don't have to ask them IRL – it's unlikely enough as it is. 😆

@4fa thanks for the clarification 👍

@traders Would someone like to share or take the remaining mana on "Schrödinger's date" before I resolve it to YES? @TheAllMemeingEye @MingCat @SaviorofPlant

@4fa Thanks :)

@traders I'm meeting someone on Monday. Previous outings with her have all been "Schrödinger's dates", so unless it suddenly turns either clearly platonic or clearly romantic/sexual, I think I will resolve "Schrödinger's date" to YES on Thursday. I‘m planning to give an update on Monday.

@4fa I would recommend clarifying beforehand whether it is indeed a date to avoid hurt feelings

@TheAllMemeingEye Hers or mine? 🤔 I'm feeling pretty zen about it at the moment. ☺️

@4fa hmm, I'm not experienced with relationships and I'm very neurodivergent, but my intuitive expectation is that repeated "Schrödinger's dates" are significantly likely (though not guaranteed) to lead to a situation where one of you is reasonably convinced you're romantically involved while the other has been assuming it's completely platonic, and if the realisation of the truth happens suddenly and in-person then it's likely to cause intense sadness and embarrassment in the one who thought it was romantic and intense creeped-out-ness in the one who thought it was platonic, in turn likely leading to immediate breakdown and loss of the existing friendship

@TheAllMemeingEye I see! Currently, I am not convinced of either option and am okay with both. Should that change, I will ask for clarification.
I remember being in the described situation years ago, though. Let's hope I've learnt something. 😅

@4fa good luck 🤞

@TheAllMemeingEye Thanks! ☺️

I might ask her for clarification, but after Thursday, to avoid interfering with the resolution of the "Schrödinger's date" option. So I'll probably resolve that option to YES in about 64 hours, except in the unlikely event that there is some unexpected clarification before that point.

@4fa did you already have the date? Did it go fine?

@TheAllMemeingEye Yes and not bad, I guess.