To clarify, this means I manage to control the urge to resume dating until the point where I would rationally agree it is wise for me to do so i.e. probably in a few months after I have effective ADHD medication and am no longer buried under difficult work deadlines, such that I have enough consistent free time that I could actually maintain a healthy relationship.

Inspired by the fact that in the past month or so I keep finding myself impulsively flirting with people I'm low-key into and half-jokingly asking friends to set me up with people they know, even though logically I really should wait until I'm actually in the right situation.

I am once again asking why sex is somehow more likely than a date or kiss

@TheAllMemeingEye Thanks, fixed. 😁👍

@TheAllMemeingEye I had a date in 2023 on which we skipped the kissing part because we both had a bit of a cold. So, had I made this kind of market in 2023, it would have resolved in this unusual way. 😂 More than one date, actually, I guess she just wasn't into kissing that much.

@4fa fair enough I hadn't considered this possibility haha, though personally I don't think I would build up enough trust to go all the way without having gone through the intermediate stages of intimacy over multiple prior dates

@TheAllMemeingEye Makes sense! It was indeed an unusual situation, but a nice one, with lots of mutual trust to begin with, due to having close friends in common.

@TheAllMemeingEye Market has no liquidity, I accidentally bet 10 mana and moved it by 40%

@ProjectVictory this is why Manifold would be better if they used straightforward proportional shares instead of this wacky maniswap amm system, liquidity should increase with trading volume, otherwise you get cases like this where the liquidity is stuck low and seemingly can't be raised lol

It's possible that if you have a significantly different credence than other actively engaging users like @4fa then you might be able to bet against their limit orders for reasonable liquidity

@ProjectVictory ok I just figured out that there's a hidden menu that shows all the current option liquidities and lets me add more, turns out several of the earlier added options only had 10 rather than 25 like the newer ones, so I've added 100 to help balance it out

@TheAllMemeingEye

I am once again asking why sex is somehow more likely than a date or kiss

b/c manifest orgy probably

@jcb good point haha, though there is a significant chance I won't be able to go to manifest and according to the market a high likelihood that the orgy won't happen

For the record, this is how the current options would have resolved for last year:

• I resume pursuing dating: YES (technically more like "I start dating for the first time ever" but close enough)

• Looking back, I had a good time on a date, regardless of outcome and expectations (N/A if no date occurs): YES

• I go on a date: YES

• I kiss someone: YES

• At the end of the year, looking back, this market had a significant positive impact on my love life: N/A

• I have sex: NO

• I ask someone I met IRL on a date: YES

• I officially and publicly enter a romantic relationship: YES

• I fall in love: 50%

• Someone breaks my heart: 50%

• I move in with a romantic partner: NO

• This market significantly negatively affects my love life: N/A

• I get engaged: NO

• I get married: NO

• I have a kid (including adoption): NO

For all preceding years of my life, all options resolve NO or N/A, as far as I'm aware.

@redcat thanks for all the added options :)

Btw unrelated but why is your username redcat while your profile pic is a blue cat? 🤔

@TheAllMemeingEye It's not just blue, it's a chubby rainbow cat with a red butt. I don't know why, but this visual-verbal mismatch is appealing to me.

@redcat ah yeah, that's cool

He truly be a chonkster

@TheAllMemeingEye great channel

My career is currently in scientific research.

Which field?? (not too relevant to the question at hand, just curious!)

I tried online dating for the first time for a few months last year, which led to 7 matches, 3 first dates, and eventually 1 relationship

Sounds like you've got it, and you would just need to eliminate the avoidance?

Were your matches, dates and partner decent people?

which due to unfortunate life circumstances outside our control had to end almost immediately after becoming official

To the extent you are comfortable sharing, what kind of circumstances? If it's something external, why did it harm your morale?

@skibidist apologies for delayed reply

Which field?? (not too relevant to the question at hand, just curious!)

Currently meteorological data science, in the long term possibly aiming to specialise in space weather or pivot to effective altruism global priorities research.

Sounds like you've got it, and you would just need to eliminate the avoidance?

Yeah honestly my success rate was better than expected, I guess my dating strategy is reasonably efficient at finding what I would otherwise assume is a tiny niche of compatible people, when I'm not having a bad day I feel reasonably confident that once I'm in an emotional and workload situation that enables dating again (hopefully in a few months) I'll be able to perform similarly.

Were your matches, dates and partner decent people?

Most of the matches that didn't lead to dates didn't involve enough input from their end to really tell what they were like, but I didn't receive any aggression or abuse from anyone. All of the people I went on dates with were extremely kind and friendly in person. The first one very suddenly ghosted me in the middle of a positive vibes message exchange following a date though, which I understand is "normal" but I still consider it a mean thing to do that I wouldn't do to others. The second one and the third one (the brief relationship) both ended things in probably the nicest and most honest manner possible.

To the extent you are comfortable sharing, what kind of circumstances?

Long term health conditions she was struggling with underwent significant escalation to the point of semi frequent hospitalisation, such that she felt she wasn't able to give as much as she wanted to and thus was not in a position to be in any kind of romantic relationship with anyone for the time being.

If it's something external, why did it harm your morale?

Due to the mistake of accidentally coming across too intense with the previous 2 people I had dated (not the sole decisive reason things didn't work out but a contributor), I exerted significant effort into trying to keep infatuation under control and temper my expectations with the third. I did have a conversation fairly early on with her specifically about my tendency to become too intense and asking her to let me know if it was getting too much for her, to which she was super understanding and supportive. After about 6 dates / study sessions together over the course of around 2 months, we finally became exclusive / public / official about being in a relationship, at which I started to let my guard down and the flood gates of infatuation / falling in love began to open. As a result, when the breakup unexpectedly came up a mere 2 weeks later, it hurt quite bad, though the blow was definitely softened by how kindly it was delivered. For quite a while afterwards it felt like the lost time investment and the pain of breakups outweighed the enjoyment, though eventually the balance of how the memories feel seems to have gradually switched back to positive.

Gotta say I'm a little surprised kiss is at much lower odds than sex, but ok 😅

@TheAllMemeingEye Thanks for the heads-up, fixed that. 😁👍

@TheAllMemeingEye Cool idea, btw! May I duplicate and adapt for myself?

@4fa yeah that's absolutely fine 😁

@TheAllMemeingEye Cool, done. 😃

https://manifold.markets/4fa/add-options-love-life-prop-bets-202

look, folks. mana's on sale! (betting YES on all of these). gl this year boss. im also climbing back on the horse this year, or gonna try anyway

@No_uh haha thanks

Tfw you bet the sex option to 69% 😎