My partner Nate and I just broke up due to me wanting kids and him not wanting them. Our relationship was pretty good before this and he estimates wanting marriage/life partner type thing with me chance at 70% in the world where I also didn't want kids.
He hasn't been down for any arrangement I've proposed that involve kids and him in any way so far.
I'm devastated and really want to get back with him, but I also definitely want kids.
Will something change in the next 3 years (or by mid August 2027) where somehow we end up seriously or primarily dating again? Any circumstance that involves us getting back together seriously counts.
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Would it be possible for you to have kids with someone else and to be seriously dating him at the same time? Is he specifically not willing to co-parent? Is it a sort of "stepdad situation" where he'd want to date you seriously if you had kids but not to parent them?
Probably not betting yet because these odds can be quite volatile right after a breakup.
Feel free to answer either none or a subset of these questions, though I think they will help close the info gap between insiders and the Manifold crowd, and encourage people to bet larger/more:
I am guessing his preferences regarding kids have been stable for a long time. What has changed now that you two have decided to actually break up?
Are you still dating each other unseriously?
What are your personal expectations about the future?
Do you think it's possible he changes his mind about wanting kids?
Do you think it's possible you could get back with him even if he doesn't end up changing his mind?
The way you are using the term primary, would getting back together require you to see each other as viable long term life partners, or could it happen by default if you two are only dating each other?
What arrangements did you suggest?
The market creator. Aella is trustworthy here, I think!