Will I enter a romantic relationship with my best friend before 2025
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@Auracle Not really. I had a very similar relationship to this one with someone else, that lasted around 6 years, but she was never officially my girlfriend (but honestly I always thought that "de facto" she pretty much was, nothing would've changed other than the label) And I've had other failed attempts as well but much less significant. I'd say all of them would tell you I'm a much better friend than a lover. (I used the coin flip mechanic to answer this. I will give 150 mana to this user)
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@BenjaminCosman she does know. She's always been supportive of my autistic ideas like when I trained a stable diffusion LoRA of her, she quite liked that. (I used the coin flip mechanic to answer this. I will give 150 mana to this user)
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How serious of a commitment do you consider the words boyfriend and girlfriend to be?
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[image]Cute pic from our vacations (sorry for my terrible kanjis)
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We met each other in Japanese class around August 2023. Initially I felt somewhat insecure because I thought she was much more attractive than myself, but things worked out mostly anyway. Over time we've become very close and we do things together around once or twice a week, such as having lunch together, watching movies, playing games, etc. We don't have this type of relationship with anyone else.

We've both been fully honest about our feelings (including my expectation of entering a romantic relationship with her). Unfortunately her last relationship was very traumatic for her and she thinks she's not ready to be in a relationship with someone else for now. Her last relationship ended around September 2023.

Resolves to YES if at any point during the year she believes that I am her "boyfriend" or that she is my "girlfriend".

You may ask further questions about our relationship or about myself. For each question, I will throw a coin. If it lands heads, I will reply honestly. If it lands tails, I will reply with a lie. I also reserve the right to overrule answering to specific, more sensitive questions in which case I will reply "overruled".

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I woke up today and this was in the mail ????

bought Ṁ10 YES at 31%

Cute pic from our vacations (sorry for my terrible kanjis)

What age (ballpark) are you two? What stage of life (NEET, student, working) are you in?

@Hibakusja We're in our mid 20s. She's older than me. I'm working and she's working and studying.

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Are you still both learning Japanese? And if so do you feel any addition to the bond you share by learning a language together?

@june Yes, we are. I think it does open up many fun possibilities or "dimensions" to our interactions, so to speak. But I'm actually not entirely sure if this is because of learning a language per se, or if any other shared activity/project would work just as well.

(I used the coin flip mechanic to answer this. I will give 150 mana to this user)

I will add, (and this fully honest, no coin involved) that doing things like learning languages, or other skills, or things like going to hackerspaces, etc is a great way to meet interesting people, and you should all try it!

Conditional on there being some objective external reasons for her previous relationship to be traumatic, do you think that a similar dynamic could play out with you?

@Jacek what do you mean by 'external reasons'?

I assume you mean something outside of / not caused by the otherwise normal dynamics of the relationship?

@mkualquiera essentially whether the problem was on her side or the guy's. If on his, then I'm asking if you can see yourself acting in the same way. (Another way of putting it is: is her caution towards a new relationship with you objectively justified, or is it just a matter of "processing" the uniquely bad relationship).

@Jacek I understand.

@Jacek I think the problem was on the guy's side, and I think it's extremely unlikely that I would ever behave like that. I'm pretty sure that I've demonstrated this to her in many ways as well, so I think it's just a matter of processing, like you said.

I think relationships can be inherently complex, and I do understand her caution. Even if I wouldn't behave in the same way, it's obvious that I am imperfect in different ways that could still hurt her.

(I used the coin flip mechanic to answer this. I will give 200 mana to this user)

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Looking at your responses to questions: Sexual - maybe; romantic - I doubt it.

@DanieliusGoriunovas Can you elaborate?

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@mkualquiera maybe it's only my personal experience, but sex is often crazy, with "haha, let's do it" energy - and romantic relationships require a bit different mood. So it's easier to jump into sexual relationships. 🤔 But I am not an expert or anything, just my personal experience/feeling/guess.

@DanieliusGoriunovas I see. Thank you!

How serious of a commitment do you consider the words boyfriend and girlfriend to be?

@june I think it's a serious commitment. It (to us) implies exclusivity, as well as different boundaries in general.

(I did not use the coinflip for this as I believe this is a question about the resolution criteria, also no mana will be sent to the user for the same reason).

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Does she know about this market? If so then what was her reaction; if not then what do you think her reaction would be?

@BenjaminCosman she does know. She's always been supportive of my autistic ideas like when I trained a stable diffusion LoRA of her, she quite liked that.

(I used the coin flip mechanic to answer this. I will give 150 mana to this user)

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Err, sorry, I guess I got too excited. I meant to imply that she thinks the market is a fun idea.

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@mkualquiera ...I'm not sure what you're clarifying here

@BenjaminCosman I got too excited talking about the LoRA stuff and forgot to clearly answer the question lmao

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Have you ever been in a relationship before. If so, how many, and how long did they last?

@Auracle Not really. I had a very similar relationship to this one with someone else, that lasted around 6 years, but she was never officially my girlfriend (but honestly I always thought that "de facto" she pretty much was, nothing would've changed other than the label)

And I've had other failed attempts as well but much less significant. I'd say all of them would tell you I'm a much better friend than a lover.

(I used the coin flip mechanic to answer this. I will give 150 mana to this user)

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@mkualquiera I wish you the best, but I’m just acting on the info I have

@Auracle Thanks!