I wrote a dating doc and haven’t decided what to do with it. (As in, this isn’t a question about writing speed, just waffling about whether it’s a good idea.)
Resolves YES if I post the doc to Manifold with associated market, add it to a publicly accessible directory, and pass it around to friends for matchmaking purposes. (That’s about as far as I’d go; I would definitely not, for example, post it on Twitter.)
Resolves NO if I don’t do anything with it before the close date.
Resolves PROB if I only pass it around to friends without publishing it anywhere.
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@Sinclair ah, thanks, but don't worry, it'll probably see the light of day soon enough. the requisite courage and calm are just a matter of time. i believe in future me!
@Alice There's been relatively recent Discourse™ about whether publishing dating docs is bad signaling, so like...maybe that's a downside? Very nebulous, I know. The more concrete downside is that I'm super anxious about the idea right now and idk if that'd resolve itself after posting. (It's the combo of natural guardedness in arenas with strangers, plus discomfort with the idea of people betting on my emotions--would like for both factors to matter less. Also it is unlikely to happen at this point, but I know if my doc had been the one to kick off Discourse™, I would have spontaneously evaporated.)
@GavrielK Ah, I understand the anxiety! (I've panic-deleted dating apps after coming across someone I knew and then sat in the dark contemplating my life choices.)
What other ways are you finding potential partners? And do they avoid these downsides, somehow? I could see any public-facing option, including dating apps, having the same potential pitfalls (other than people betting on your emotions, but you don't have to make it a market if you don't want to). It's uncomfortable putting yourself out there! But at least this way, you control how you put yourself out there.
@GavrielK Do you think that it's bad signaling?
I think any bad signaling would come from the content, which could just as easily be in a standard dating app profile, and not from the format.
@Alice So like, after a month, I think I am getting steadily less nervous about this idea. My other way to find potential partners is attending various group events in my area, basically just trying to get to know more people in general--clearly slow going. And I definitely don't think that it's bad signaling (I'm very happy to see the proliferation of dating docs and would never discount someone for posting one).