I have a Hinge profile set up but I haven't started using it yet. I think my profile looks reasonably good but my photos look somewhat staged since I took them specifically for the profile. My profile is currently self-selecting pretty hard towards serious relationships, which will probably reduce the number of matches I get. I may purchase a Hinge subscription. If I do, I'll provide an update when I purchase it.
The seven-day period begins when I first send a like on Hinge and lasts exactly 168 hours. I'll post the exact start and end times and provide daily updates.
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@traders Still nothing after six days. Today, I took some photos and replaced the worst ones from my profile but there's less than a day until resolution.
How depressing is this? Here’s my advice as someone who has worked 35 years in tech: stay off the dating apps. They are 100% optimized for revenue generation and zero percent interested in making you happy or helping you actually find a mate.
Sometimes tech works well in the beginning when they are burning VC capital and have some starry eyed founders but once they are in profitability mode and the bean counters take over they all pretty much suck.
@JimAusman Yeah, I get where you're coming from. My opportunities to meet people in person are pretty limited, so I'm using Hinge as one possible avenue right now.
@Parallax If it helps recalibrate your expectations thus reduce disappointment, when I tried Hinge for about 3 months in 2024, it led to 7 matches, 3 first dates, and eventually 1 relationship, so on average that's about 1 match every 13 days, although this was also with me applying a perhaps unusually strict approach of speed skimming through the text of people's profiles and immediately swiping no if there wasn't any hint of shared views or interests before even looking at the pictures, which filtered out roughly 95% of profiles from the get-go
Mechanically:
You should be able to filter by “active now” or “active today” or something, probably do that and send the likes with comments attached, ask some weird questions or give some weird answers.
You can “refresh” the feed by toggling that filter, but you should probably “X” people you’re not interested in for algorithmic signals. If you’re really not interested, you can do something like “remove” from the drop-down, because X’d people can / will re-enter your queue if you make it to the “end”, e.g., based on filters. Which is good!
…probably max out the profile text area, captions on photos, with your polarizing-but-not-crazy takes. Like, everyone wants someone who’s honest and likes to travel and eat brunch, you should be seeing those patterns in profiles… and aim to be one that is, in contrast, alive.
I don’t know what that means for you, maybe you could scrape Reddit to see what the median male profiles are? And then don’t do that.
(Which probably includes the marriage and children if that’s in a prompt, cart before horse, there are filters and fields for that and mark them… you’re probably looking for something more like “<here is what our time together would look like (it’s awesome)>”.)
Anyhow, YMMV, good luck! If you want to take some screenshots of whatever you’ve got and DM them to me and I can be like, “IDK dude, that seems kinda meh”, go for it.
Did we get any insight as to your metro area?
@TannerNewell Thanks, this is really helpful. I'm already using the Life Partner field for marriage and children rather than using up a prompt on it.
The photos are probably the biggest weakness. All six were taken specifically for this app, which leads to the profile looking repetitive and staged. Improving that is my next priority.