Will I have a girlfriend in 2024?
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If I date anyone in 2024, this resolves YES. If not, this resolves NO. Most cases should be pretty clear cut, but if both myself and someone else consider ourselves to be in a relationship this definitely resolves YES. If a reasonable third party considers us together for more than two weeks, it also resolves YES.

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Some general questions:

  • What part of the world do you live in?

  • What is the size, gender balance, and relationship success rate of your friendship group?

  • What dating methods do you intend to use?

  • What are your political views e.g. in terms of economics, government, and progressivism (particularly gender equality)?

  • What are your free-time hobbies, and what topics do you enjoy chatting about, both for small talk and deep discussions?

  • Do you have any neurodivergence?

  • Do you find it difficult to enjoy the company of, compassionately care about, and trust people you meet?

  • Do any you have a date-me-doc? e.g. https://dateme.directory/

These questions vastly affect the odds in my opinion

Good luck :)

@TheAllMemeingEye

I'm not going to answer these in public, because I cannot delete manifold comments, and, even if I could, the internet is forever and most of this is way too personal. Happy to talk over messages.

My wife says you should go to pottery classes. Will you go?

@tarehart Probably not

bought Ṁ250 NO

Update: finally went on a date, but she hasn't responded to any follow-up messages.

What'd you do on the date?

Are you straight?

Yep. Straight, cis male in my 20s.

Do you own chinos?

@NivlacM Nope. I had not heard of those until now.

bought Ṁ5 NO at 20%
bought Ṁ5 YES at 56%

@NivlacM I'm noticing a pattern in your advice haha

@TheAllMemeingEye They're key!!!

@NivlacM Where is the data supporting this alleged advantage lol, I'm beginning to think you're in the pocket of Big Chino! (pun unintended)

bought Ṁ100 NO

Update: No girlfriend yet. I'm on a few dating apps but it hasn't gone well- no dates. I've also tried asking out women in person but they're typically either taken or not attracted to men.

What fraction of them have been not attracted to men?

Update?

@benjaminIkutab no progress. Anything more specific you'd suggest as a shareholder?

What exactly is the bottleneck, you get plenty of matches, but you don't like any of their conversations?

@benjaminIkuta I don't get matches and I don't really attend non-rationalist-adjacent social events (since I don't hear about them). I'm not entirely sure what I should do.

@JoeC get better photos. Use Photofeeler, hire a photographer if you need to. Join the Optimized Dating discord server for advice.

@benjaminIkuta I see. Do you know of any good places to hire a photographer?

Cheap: https://www.snappr.com/

Expensive: https://thematchartist.com/

You can also search Instagram for the hashtag "[city name]photographer"

@benjaminIkuta if you go with Snappr or Instagram, for best results, evaluate their portfolio first by either asking on the discord or testing the photos on Photofeeler

i would not recommend getting a photographer! i think taking casual pictures with friends is a much more authentic way to go

Lucky you, having friends! But yes, that's also good. Genuine smiles are superior. The best thing is having a friend who is an amateur photographer.

i think sometimes it can be awkward, but if you’re ever with a group of friends having a nice time a quick “let’s take a picture!” can go a long way