Why not just move to SF together

@ZacharyKreiser If this happened, would it resolve yes or no?

Working to live >>> living to work, in terms of long-term happiness for most people

@iqs Any special insider knowledge or just doubtful of long distance for some reason?

@ian just doubtful

@iqs They've already done it before with success, though.

@ian it's not a judgement on OP. Long distance relationships are hard. Maybe only one in four couples can make it work?

@iqs i guess I’ll bet more against you! They’ve already shown they can do it

@ian My final bet (for now).

It's the trying to get pregnant that makes me doubt it the most. In either case, whether OP gets pregnant or not, being physically distant from a spouse seems to be a potential source of regret.

@iqs and if she gets pregnant the separation might be even worse. OTOH, it also depends for how long they'll do this. A year to get it on the resume and then get a good job in Seattle might work out.

How chill are you with going out with work colleagues during the week? How much will paying double rent & frequent tickets impact the financial viability of the situation?

Do you have an "exit plan"? (You moving to SF? Him getting permission to work remotely most of the time and moving back to Seattle? Him switching jobs after gaining experience, to something in Seattle?)

It sounds like your experience with long distance has been okay previously, so I think you're well set up to make it work. But it seems valuable to have a time horizon / long term plan in mind, especially if you are planning to have children.

idk but hope it works out

@asmith ty!